Topics: Personal

Posts about some aspect of my personal life, usually non-religious

A possible key to moral living…

Monday, March 10th, 2008

Over the past couple of months, I’ve taken a good look at myself, and realized that I’m not too thrilled with what I see. I’ve become discouraged with the blatant fact that I cannot become a more moral person by mere effort. If I look hard enough at my motivations for doing good things, I begin to see I have partial selfish reasons for doing nearly all of them.

More recently, I think I’ve discovered something that has really helped me, and I thought I’d share it with everyone out there who struggles with being a moral person and has decided to devote their life to doing what is right. You know who you are, and you know what I mean by being “moral.” To put others first in your priorities, to love without expecting to be loved in return, to not steal, lie, wish harm to others, or to talk badly about them, etc. We have a desire to leave our spheres of influences in better shape then if we were never around to influence them. In fact, we have decided that being moral and following a moral code is more important than anything else – it is a cause that drives our lives as we sit in the passenger seat.

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Wednesday, June 20th, 2007

About three years ago, I had a very bad church experience. It colored how I thought about church for a long time after – that it was corrupt and imperfect, an entity that detracts from a person’s thriving spiritual life. However, I realized the other day that I have completely recovered from my anger towards all churches.

What was the thing that helped me?

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10 hours a week in the car

Tuesday, June 12th, 2007

I’ve officially moved to Pennsylvania! As exciting as that is, there is still the unfortunate reality of having to work for another 2 months in Rochester, NY (5 hours away) for work related reasons. I desperately want to be with my family, so I will be traveling home and back every weekend. This means I will be alone with my thoughts with nobody else for 10 hours a week. For a majority of the trip, I will be going through deep country areas that are radio and cellphone inaccessible.

So I’m curious… What would you all do if you had this kind of situation? I’m open to suggestions! 🙂

I’m leaving…

Thursday, May 3rd, 2007

I’m not leaving the blogging world, but I am leaving Rochester, NY. I moved here about 10 years ago to start a job here, and now it’s time to say goodbye.

My time here has been mixed – both filled with the best times in my life and some of the worst. I don’t think I’ve really had a lot of luck with any one church in the area (I’ve seriously attended 3-4, and tried out about 20+) but I never was able to call one home before I had to move on to the next. When I go back to Pennsylvania, it will be going home to a church community that I can truly call home. My reaction to many of the churches here could be best summed up by what my father, exasperated by the funky Christianity, told some curious women at a religious retreat he was teaching at…

Women: Is this Christian stuff really real?
My father: (after being part of a weekend of near-insanity and regretting it) I just don’t know.

I believe it is real, but it is so encrusted with the ridiculous that it’s hard to sift the real from the crap.

But you know what makes me smile the most about going home? I look forward to being with my younger brother and his family most of all. It’s been tough being gone for the past 15 years – I hope to be able to spend time with him – probably on lunches every week. He and I will both be working in the same town – me from the comfort of my sweet home office, and him from his office at his work. What a wild life it will be from here on out.

I can feel it. Something is happening… Something good in all this. 🙂

It’s a boy!!

Friday, April 6th, 2007


My wife and I were visiting my parents, but guess what happened? She went into labor and we had a baby boy! Our doctors back home were less than thrilled with us traveling with her due date so close, but oh well, it worked out really well in the end. All of our family (both Melissa’s and mine) both lived in the area and they all stopped by for a visit! It was really wonderful.

His name is Jacob Alden Dorsey. Born on March 30th at 6:00am. 7lbs. 13oz. and 20.1″ long!

To all my readers: I’m so sorry for not approving comments or responding or even posting! Things have been pretty crazy! I promise to post more good stuff in the near future!

My Daughter and I

Saturday, February 3rd, 2007

I just realized that I’ve never posted a picture of myself. I would hate posting one of just myself – so I found one with my daughter! What a cutie. 🙂

Me and the kiddo!

The walk

Tuesday, December 12th, 2006

Well, just when I didn’t think my life could get any wilder, it did. If you haven’t read my previous post about what had happen today and last night, check it out. After I had finally got my life in order after my car accident, I laid down for a well deserved night sleep.

That didn’t happen.

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